The Weakest Player on Your Team
What if the parts of you that you’ve been avoiding, hiding, and quietly managing your whole life aren’t the problem? What if they’re just the parts that haven’t been coached yet?
This episode started with a client who came to me anxious, heavy, and drowning in his own circumstances. What came out of that conversation was a metaphor I haven’t been able to stop thinking about — and one that I think is going to change the way you see yourself.
Every team has a star player. But a good coach knows the future of the team doesn’t live there. It lives in the player nobody wants to deal with. The one sitting at the end of the bench. The one who keeps getting passed over because developing them costs more than it feels worth right now.
Your emotions, your behaviors, your personality — they’re a team. And most of us have been pouring everything into our strongest parts while quietly benching the ones that feel too messy, too raw, or too hard to face.
Kim also gets personal in this one — sharing the version of herself she kept hidden for years. The fear-based side. The side that wasn’t always okay. The side she was privately ashamed of until she finally stopped running from her and started coaching her instead.
In this episode you’ll walk away knowing how to identify your own benched players through three entry points — your recurring triggers, your hidden emotions, and the shame you’ve been carrying that was never actually a verdict on who you are.
This is not surface level work. This is the real thing.
What we get into:
The mirror concept and why your triggers are never really about what you think they’re about — why your star players will eventually go down and what happens if your bench isn’t ready — the difference between managing yourself and actually developing yourself — how shame functions as a map, not a verdict — and what it actually looks like to stop running from the hardest parts of who you are
Connect with Kim:
Instagram: @ownyourshift_kim
Website: ownyourshiftwithkim.com
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