Why You Self-Sabotage When Things Are Going Too Well -- The Nervous System Thermostat
Episode Summary:
This episode came straight out of a walk Kim took this afternoon -- and a corn dog truck she almost stopped at for no reason. What started as a hilarious moment of self-awareness turned into one of the most profound realizations Kim has had about why we sabotage ourselves when things are going really well. If you have ever felt uncomfortable when life was too good -- this episode is going to change how you see yourself.
What We Cover:
The corn dog moment.Kim was on her second listen of a Dr. Joe Dispenza interview, completely lit up and full of ideas, when she walked past a corn dog truck and suddenly craved one. She doesn't even like corn dogs. She hasn't had one in years. So why -- at the exact moment she felt the best she had in a long time -- did her body want something it knew would make her feel terrible?
The pattern Kim saw in three areas of her life.After the corn dog moment Kim started seeing the same pattern everywhere. On great workout days telling herself she could eat whatever she wanted. Starting fights in relationships when things were going really well. Spending money back down to zero every time she had a significant influx of cash. Three completely different areas. One identical pattern underneath all of them.
The nervous system thermostat.Dr. Joe Dispenza talks about this concept and it is one of the most important things Kim has ever come across. Your nervous system has a set point -- just like a thermostat. It will do everything in its power to bring you back to the temperature it knows. That set point was set a long time ago in a season when feeling too good wasn't safe. And it has been enforcing that lesson ever since.
The three steps -- notice it, name it, choose differently.Awareness is the beginning but it is not the whole thing. Kim walks through exactly what to do when you catch your thermostat trying to pull you back down -- and why this is a nervous system shift not a mindset shift.
The Challenge Kim Leaves You With:Notice your thermostat this week. Notice the moment when things are going really well and something in you reaches for the thing that will bring you back down. Just notice it. Name it. And for that one moment -- choose to stay elevated a little longer.
This Episode Is For You If:
- You feel uncomfortable when things are going too well
- You have ever sabotaged a good relationship, a good streak, or a good financial moment
- You keep arriving back at the same place no matter how hard you try
- You want to understand what is actually happening in your nervous system when you self-sabotage
Mentioned In This Episode:
- Dr. Joe Dispenza -- School of Greatness interview
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