Oct. 1, 2025

Self-Worth Series: Part 2 – The Lie of Proving (Why Achievement Doesn’t Equal Worth)

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Show Notes

Welcome back to Own Your Shift with Kim! This is Part 2 of our 5-part Self-Worth series, and today we’re diving into a belief that keeps so many of us stuck: the lie that achievement equals worth.

If you’ve ever found yourself chasing goals, hitting milestones, or constantly producing—only to feel empty, restless, or like it still isn’t enough—you’re not alone. This is what I call the Proving Loop. It looks like ambition on the outside, but underneath it’s often driven by fear: fear of not being enough, fear of being unseen, fear of rejection.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why achievement alone never fills the void of self-worth.
What’s actually happening in your brain when external validation feels addictive (dopamine + the proving loop).
How survival mode tricks us into overworking, overgiving, and overachieving.
A 3-day “Worth-Proving Detox” you can try this week to notice, interrupt, and replace old patterns.

I’ll also share my personal story of realizing I was addicted to stress—and how even calm felt unsafe to my nervous system. If you’ve ever struggled with burnout, emotional eating, or constantly hustling just to feel valuable, this episode will hit home.

✨ Key reminder: You can’t patch a self-worth wound with productivity. You are inherently worthy—no proving required.